I am full of curiosity, at times doubt, and a million wonderings about the unknown. I foster my own resilience, by cultivating vulnerability and compassion and in doing so give others permission to do the same.
I am a mother of two teenage daughters and have been married for 18 years. I am a long distance runner, a former ballet dancer and writer, driven by a propensity to make sense of what doesn’t make sense.
As a writer, I’ve authored Ballet’s Child, a full-length contemporary ballet documenting the autobiographical story of a young girl suffering and recovering from an eating disorder. Additionally, I’ve written Sheath, Erosion: A Memoir of Marriage as well as my current body of work called, Charlotte: Seeking Joy in the Midst of Grief.
In my private practice I've served as an Educational and Parenting Consultant across the country, working with parents of students in ESE, Gifted as well as students with Autism, Dyslexia, Sensory Processing Disorder, Oppositional Defiances Disorder and various learning and behavioral differences. This alongside my work as a Marriage Mentor led me to create Fostering Resilience. I hold a BFA from Emerson College and an MFA from Sarah Lawrence College.
As a long time teacher in both private and public schools, I’ve worked with children of all ages. I've created Profession Development workshops on Social Emotional Learning, and served as a teacher mentor. Through various teaching method such as The Harkness Method of Education, modeled by Exeter Academy in New Hampshire as well as Project Based Learning via High Tech High Institute in San Diego, CA, my classroom time is near to my heart.
Additionally at the age of 18, I earned my certification to teach infants and children to swim. Building my own business on word of mouth referrals, I’ve taught over a thousand babies and children while educating parents about their child’s emotional, physical and developmental stages.
I always come back to my deepest passion: helping myself and my student, child or adult, to feel safe enough to be vulnerable, curious, honest, self aware and powerful.
What People are Saying
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“Lani has helped to guide my family through many tumultuous transitions - always with great empathy and compassion. Her calm and reassuring wisdom has helped us navigate everything from nursing challenges, online school struggles, deep grieving and the day-to-day frustrations of modern parenting. Lani has taught me to truly trust myself while also helping me to hone skills that I didn’t know I had. She has a gift of empowering parents and families to listen to their inner wisdom so they can live a more resilient life.”
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“Thank you, Lani. Your light shines so bright even in the darkest times. You lead by example and are so powerful. My husband and I and our children are so lucky to have you in our lives.”
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“Lani reminds me that what I’m going through-whether in my marriage or in my motherhood—is normal and quite common. Even though I may be feeling hopeless or overwhelmed, she encourages me with tried and true actionable steps. She’s a true north star.”
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“You have brought light to my daughter’s eyes again. I remember your writing and your teaching often and especially on those restless nights. And I think, How does she always know what to say to me? Being with you has shifted our family forever.